Unconditional Love.

A friend of mine once asked me, "How can you resist unhealthy yet tasty food so easily?". Before I could answer the question she concluded, "You are different."

I know everyone is different. We all are different. Yet surprisingly nobody likes to be called different. May be I didn't like it either. I tried to resist by saying, "Let's imagine that your two years old daughter starts miraculously listening everything you tell her about food, diet, eating habits, etc. She also starts eating every food that you prescribe for her. In this case will you insist on giving her the kind of food that will make her strong, the food that will help her live longer and stay health?" She said "Yes, Of course." I asked her "Why?" Shy said, "Obviously, because I love my daughter."

I said, "Exactly! I can also resist the temptation because I love myself and I love my body too".

For many people it's not easy to resist this temptation. It's not easy for them not to eat unhealthy food, junk food. And rightly so. It is very natural to do what we like and not necessarily what's good in long run. It's been proven over and over again that every time you tell your mind not to do something your mind does exactly that or at least wants to do the same thing. So how do we solve this problem? Well we don't. There is no point in fighting against your mind or trying to suppress the strong desires.

Tiger Woods was once asked, "What's the secrete of your success?". He said something very interesting. "When I am hitting the ball, I look at the ball then I look at the hole. Again I look at the ball and look at the hole. I keep visualizing how the ball would go in the hole. I hit the ball only when I am very sure of it". He executes the process of ball going into the hole several times in his mind before he realized it in the shot.

If visualization can help Tiger Woods it can surely help us too. Don't worry about diet, good food habits, not eating unhealthy food, etc. Just ignore that part. Focus all your energy on how you love your body. Have unconditional love for self. Accept yourself the way you are. Accept all your imperfections. It's okay if you decide not to eat junk food and eat the burger from some filthy roadside restaurant. You don't need to be harsh on yourself. No need to punish yourself. If you punish or be harsh on yourself your self-esteem goes down. Somebody has rightly said living life with low self-esteem is like driving car with handbrakes on. Just release the handbrakes. Let the car move smoothly.

Appreciate every good thing in yourself and also accept all imperfections. That's the way you are today. Once you start loving yourself unconditionally you start feeling better, your self-esteem also gets boosted. Most importantly you start feeling worthy.

Next step. Start visualizing what you want to be. Visualize the kind of body that you want, the kind of perfect health you desire, the perfect balanced weight you want, the long life that you want to live, etc. Visualize this over and over, day and night, several times. Your desire shall become a great obsession and go deeper and deeper into your subconscious mind. So that next time you have that delicious, yummy chocolate ice-cream in front of you, you would eat only one bite. Or may not even eat that. You are no more fighting against the temptation. You have overcome it. You are free from it.

Weight loss is no more painful. It's very natural and also has permanent effect. Most important without struggling, fighting, chasing several different weight loss programs your lifestyle would be different forever. And you can plan nice vacation at some beautiful place with the money and time you would save by not attending different diet programs, books, videos, etc.

Unconditionally loving yourself does miracles for you. It moves you from the state of imperfection towards the state of perfection within no time.

There is also a misconception that loving yourself is selfish or not loving others. This is totally wrong. By loving yourself you become full of love. When you are full of love you can love others very easily. Once you start accepting yourself the way you are it becomes very easy to accept others the way they are without judging them. You cannot help poor people by being poor, you must be rich. So make a resolution today to love yourself the way you are.